The Mastery Reps: Guide To Building Self-Confidence

Hey there!

Quick backstory:

For the longest time I struggled with self-confidence.

It wasn’t until mid-sophmore year of high school that I figured out how to better my confidence.

At that time I saw plenty of youtube videos (mainly from Hamza) but I also saw videos from different other creators as well.

And from everything I consumed, I decided to do things that I learned from them, as well as doing certain things my own way.

I wouldn’t consider myself any sort of pill, whether that be blue or red or pink or purple or black or whatever color pill.

I am just me, and so I didn’t follow their teachings step by step.

I simply took the information and knowledge I gained from them, and implemented it into my own personal life.

So here it is:

Are working building your self-confidence?

I gotchu.

Brandon Aguilera’s Super Duper Guide to Self-Confidence!!!!!!

Self-confidence is NOT ego

A lot of people tend to confuse confidence with ego.

Society has made it common for people to normalize talking shit about yourself-

And just like confidence, many people confuse self-deprecation with humility.

Here’s the truth:

When you talk positively about yourself WITHOUT belittling others,

THAT is confidence.

Things such as:

• Recognizing your capabilities

• Giving yourself props for achievements

• Considering yourself as “handsome” or “beautiful”

• Believing that you are capable of both easy and hard goals

These are things that many people tend to think is “ego” when they see someone practicing it.

And I’m not saying this because I read it online or something no no no.

I have personally had people tell me to my face that when they first met me, they thought I was just another egotistical jock. (yap incoming- if you don’t care, skip to the next subtitle ‘Words have power’)

I say this because with all due respect to those sorts of people: there is a common stereotype of high-school athletes acting like dickheads.

And although it’s not every athlete of course, there are definitely people that fit under that umbrella.

Look dawg, I never had beef with anyone, so I hung out and spoke with everyone: The “loud”, the “popular”, the “nerdy”, the “lame”, the “weird”, everyone man.

But with that being said, this particular person would see me when I would be around the “loud” “cool” “stuck-up” kids, and although some of them were that type, it didn’t mean that I was.

And whenever we first met, I wouldn’t talk shit about myself. I never was rude or condescending to anyone, but I would never call myself ugly asf or things like that you know?

At times I would make self-deprecating jokes, but I wouldn’t double down on them because I know the power of words (more on that later)

When I would be conversing with them about some real shit, I would call myself handsome (not randomly ofc, but some of the convos would lead to it for one reason or another)

Or I would give myself props for my abilities, either my strength or speed or toughness.

All of this is what I would call confidence.

I am confident in myself, both who I am, what I have done, and who I have become.

But because in high school kids are still learning how to accept themselves, be themselves, or even just trying to find themselves really

This causes them to see the rejection of self-deprecation as ego.

Don’t fall for this mentality.

Be kind to yourself. Respect yourself, becauseeeeee…

Words have power

Trustttt me.

Everything you say to yourself has an effect on you.

Why?

Because your brain is always processing what you say.

Your brain, as smart as it is, can’t distinguish the difference between “truth” and “lie” in the sense that as handsome as you are bro (just gave you a big kith through the screen), if you keep calling yourself ugly your brain will eventually believe the lie of you being ugly.

So with that being said-

Speak words of encouragement to yourself.

Force your brain to believe these compliments through repetition.

The more you do it, the bigger your confidence grows.

Repeat whatever you want to hear.

Matter of fact, tell yourself you have a big pp (or big butt if you’re a girl) ((or both man it doesn’t matter to me, this is for YOUR well-being))

It’s pretty insane how well it actually works though.

If you struggle with insecurity, stop talking shit about yourself.

Start talking to yourself out loud by saying how nice you look today, how proud you are of yourself.

Matter of fact, here’s a list of things to say on the daily to yourself:

• You look good

• I’m proud of you

• You are confident

• You are a cool person

• You are capable of big things

• You are good at talking to new people

• You deserve whatever good comes your way

For a number of months I would tell myself these sort of statements every morning.

Of course I wouldn’t say ALL of them on a daily, but switch it up bro.

Say them, and allow for your own words to slowly build your confidence.

Love yourself

This one goes hand-in-hand with the last point.

But you have to love yourself as well.

Especially if you’re insecure, you may have to force it a little.

Self-love plays a big role in gaining confidence.

Yes, saying various nice, loving things to yourself is phenomenal, but you also have to force yourself to think happy thoughts as well.

Force yourself to think “Man, I love myself.”

IM TELLING YOU BRO THATS THE METHOD!!!

Challenge yourself & Celebrate Your Victories

Face discomfort head on.

Put yourself in uncomfortable situations.

For example:

• Making small talk to a stranger

• Talking to that girl you’ve been crushing on

• Going out on that run you’ve been holding back on

Set these challenges up for yourself and see them as goals.

It’s almost like a game, and every time you complete these objectives you earn yourself more “skill” points,

Which in this case, the harder the objective seems, the more points you’ll earn towards Confidence.

And remember:

There’s no rush.

Start with smaller goals.

You don’t need to conquer the world from the very beginning.

You just need a couple first steps to get the ball rolling.

Practice completing a couple daily goals at first.

• Fitness

• Wellness

• Productivity

• Mental health

These goals could cover any aspect that you want/need to improve on.

Because when working towards gaining confidence, your brain has to know that you’re worth a damn.

Prove to yourself that you get shit done.

Prove to yourself that you have value in your life, and that you choose to make something of yourself.

That is what completing these goals will help out with.

They will be hard evidence towards convincing yourself that you are worthy.

And you know what; the destination is not the only thing that’s important, but also the journey as well.

Through my personal experience, sometimes even the journey is far greater than the destination simply because of what you learned from it and who you became because of it.

For example, during one of my many leg injuries, I wanted the goal to recover and be able to jog a mile without any pain in my leg. 

Of course it isn’t just as simple as starting at point A and getting to point B. I had a few smaller goals that I wanted to accomplish first. 

These smaller goals I made for myself were: 

• Complete one squat 

• Jump in place for 5 seconds without pain 

• Do 5 jumping jacks 

• Walk for 20 minutes at a 3mph pace 

These smaller goals were helpful in keeping me in a positive mindset, allowing me to really see that I have indeed been making progress. 

Through this new perspective of looking at these smaller goals, I learned to be more patient throughout my recovery simply because I was keeping track of my improvements through those smaller tasks that I set up through my journey of recovery.

With this comes the importance of celebrating these smaller victories. 

Any accomplishment you achieve should be celebrated by the person who did it: You. 

Be proud of any goals you have conquered no matter the size of those goals. There is a reason why any and every battle won in war is celebrated. 

At the end of the day we all start somewhere, so it is important to keep a positive mindset during your progress. 

Realize that you have made it this far into your journey, accept any mistakes that have occurred throughout it, but do not forget to celebrate these smaller victories through this journey.

Always strive to be better

Do more.

Want more.

Work towards having more.

Work towards being better at what you do.

Work towards providing both quantity and quality.

Seek to learn more. Seek more knowledge and wisdom.

• Learn a new skill

• Learn a new language

• Improve your strength

• Improve your mental health

Strive to keep growing.

Choose to be a student of life.

In my current personal experience, I am learning French and ASL (American Sign Language).

Though rather slow, I have a few pages of notes on French + I’ve learned the ASL alphabet!

On top of those, I am on the journey of reading the bible from cover to cover. On top of reading, I am also writing down notes for each of the chapters as well.

It’s definitely going to be a journey from here forward.

Trying my best to become a top 1% human being.

But that’s just me lol.

Always looking for more to improve on, on top of following each of the previous steps, will guarantee that you’ll gain confidence.

Matter of fact, this will cause a cycle of straight W’s popping up in your life with maximum consistency.

Always completing goals + Celebrating W’s + Striving to be better = Confidence Maxxing and Life Maxxing.

To end this off,

Be cool. Be kind. Be respectful. Be patient.

This entire journey is meant to be life long.

But it doesn’t mean that such results as confidence should take as long to show up.

Practice these tips daily.

• Make it a habit to face discomfort.

• Make it a habit to set & accomplish goals

• Make it a habit to celebrate your accomplishments

• Make it a habit to practice speaking positive affirmations

And of course:

Never fail to love yourself.

I hope this guide has helped you my glorious king (or queen),

Talk to you soon,

Brandon Aguilera 🙂 

ps. Im about to send this out right before midnight on Sunday.

The week got busy asf lol my apologies.

With that being said tho, I got this second email out before the end of the week hehehe

Much luv goats!